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I found out I contracted HPV (Human Papalomis Virus) about six months ago. I was told it was very common and unless a virgin only has sex with another virgin, just about everyone will get infected with HPV in their lifetime.

Then about a week ago, I noticed a few bumps near my labia. I thought it was just a result of too much rough sex. I went to my gyno anyway, and she told me they were genital warts - a result of HPV. I felt so humiliated and embarrassed. I felt dirty and ashamed. How could this happen to me? I almost always use condoms, and the few times I haven't, I knew my partner well enough to "know" he was clean. Turns out it doesn't matter whether I used a condom or not, because it can be spread through safe sex too.

Anyway, I have been in a relationship for about six months, now and we have been having protected sex (before I got the warts). Now, I don't want him to touch me or see me. I know I can't hide this forever, but I don't know how to tell him or how he will take it. The warts can be removed surgically, which I already made an appointment for, so if they're gone, do I have to tell him? I know he deserves to know, and I should respect him enough to care, but I'm scared to lose him.

Any advice would be helpful. Also, if anyone else is dealing with HPV and/or genital warts, it would be nice to have someone to relate to. Thanks much.

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	Melanie	11-Feb-09

My doctor said I have low grade squamous lesion. Is there any other reason other than hpv for this? Does anyone have any experiences where it wasn't hpv? I'm really panicing here. I looked through the net, all it says is it's associated with hpv.

	Ali	22-Dec-07

TELL HIM. i got HPV when i was 15 and dint find out i had it till i was almost 17, so naturally i told my partner, he said he didnt care, we eventually broke up, but my boyfriend im with now he know and he know that they cause warts, he doesnt care, he s me and supports me. but if hes the one you think ur going to spend the rest of you life, he wont care. and if he does care and it freaks him out... his loss. just explain the facts about hpv to him, and it hardly ever causes problems with males.

	Regina	04-Nov-07

I ment is a guy is infected where did he get infected from 99% I would say from a female 99% of guys are not gay so there for they wouldn't get it from another guy ugh nevermind I'm too confused I know what I'm saying

	Katie	31-Oct-07

Let me rephrase my statement "it is HIGHLY unlikely for a female to pass it on to another male" AND what do you mean where do I think the guy contracted the virus from??! I'm just relaying information I was given at the Dana Farbar Cancer Inst. in Boston. But here are some more facts that should put you at ease... The types of HPV that cause anogenital warts are spread by skin-to-skin contact, usually during vaginal, anal, or possibly oral sex with someone who has the infection. It is possible, however, to become infected with the virus without having sex if you come into contact with an infected area in the anogenital region. HPV is more likely to be transmitted when warts are present, but the virus can be transmitted even when there are no visible warts. It is possible to have more than one type of HPV infection at a time. ***If a woman has abnormalities detected on a Pap test or cervical cancer there is no need for her sex partner(s) to seek clinical assessment and treatment unless assessment is needed for HPV symptoms or other sexually transmitted infections. Similarly, if your sexual partner has a current or remote history of anogenital warts or HPV infection, there is no need to seek clinical assessment and treatment unless assessment is needed for HPV symptoms or other sexually transmitted infections. ******

	Regina	26-Oct-07

from what the other person said there isn't a test for male hpv there is no way to know if they have it unless they have the sympton of warts another thing where did you hear that female can't pass it on? because they definately can how else would guys get it? from other guys? not all guys are into that nasty ish yes what you said is true guys are just carriers of it meaning that it doesn't usually affect them they it just is there doing nothing but Females can pass it on to males

	Tena	24-Oct-07

maybe u shouldn't have sex before marrige! that would solve a bunch of problems. i hope ur ok though!!!

	Katie	23-Oct-07

Dear Worry Wart, First of all, please don't take offense to the greeter, just trying to add a little humor to a situation that I KNOW can be devastating. Anyways, I want you to know you are not alone!! So many young females are infected by this horrible virus! This is MY opinion on what I would do if in your situation. Try to find out who you contracted the virus from and let them know. It's important for the male to be aware that he is carrying the HPV virus, in order to prevent other girls from going through exactly what you are going through right now. And Yes, when describing HPV, I am going to use the term "virus" because I most definitely do not consider it an STD (although I am sure others will disagree, and fight me on it until their faces turn blue, but I am going to hold to my statement. HPV is a VIRUS, and should not be categorized as an STD.) A female can not infect a male. Which is the most important thing to remember. Which leads me to my next point, your boyfriend does not have to know. Men lack the knowledge we have in regards to our body and certain complications we experience with our "area"... they automatically jump to conclusions and get themselves worked up for no reason. If you were to tell him I would start it off somewhere along the lines of, "You can not get this, the male is the carrier and passes it on to the female, who can not in return give it back to a male. Also, I did not get this VIRUS from you, it was contracted from someone in my past." Then proceed however you see fit. I am also going to throw my 2cents in and put this out there... if something like this is going to change the way he sees you or influence the feelings he has for you, is he really the type of person you want to be with? Essentially, take care of you first. HPV can become more serious if left untreated or unmonitored for an extended period of time, leading to cervical caner. Do not worry though, for that to happen it must go untreated for many many years, and usually is found in women in their 30's. You are one of the lucky ones, it was caught in plenty of time and through this experience take a little something with you. Whether it be the recognition of how strong of a person you are, or the realization of how fragile life is. Best of Luck

	Regina	23-Oct-07

wow I have HPV but no longer have the warts I did for a few months while I was pregnant (wow I sound awsome pregnant, hpv, genital warts ) but they probally came about because of my hormones I haven't had anymore since and last we checked my body was fighting the HPV so it should go away I told my boyfriend....I don't know he has bad memory or something because then he felt bad that I didn't tell him right away and that I got it from someone else, then he thought he gave it to me and felt bad about that, but we will never know you should tell him because he has it also may not show symptoms but he has it maybe you should bring it on lightly such as having a conversation about HPV and see how reacts and then decide on your approach to telling him

	Seniors 08	23-Oct-07

u should tell him because he won't care if he s u