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When my boyfriend's mother was diagnosed with cancer, he began to take all his anger out on me. It has been two months since she was diagnosed, and this still continues. I don't know how to talk to him about it. At first I didn't mind just because I knew he needed time to adjust to everything; he was confused and had many questions. It's not as bad, but it is still not okay.

I don't know how to approach this situation anymore. I have tried talking to him about it many times. I've tried to be very supportive and there for him, but it's hard when he doesn't allow me to be. How do I tell him without getting him upset that I didn't do this to his mother and that it's not okay that he uses me as an outlet for all of this? I have been nothing but there for him and his family since the beginning.

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	do I kNow U?	02-Dec-06

wow, thats not very comforting! i was thinking b4 i replied to your articel that after a long friendship pple always say youv stuck with me forever though all those terrible times and i thought thats great but did that person get hurt very much from it, my point is that i know hes you boyfriend and that his mom has cancer but thats absolutly no excuse to take it out on u! tell him to take kick boxing classes i dont know but one things for sure he ant get mad at you u dint do anything , your probaly one of the best things that happen to him and what he doesnt relize is that he can slowly loose you by taking his anger out on you! good luck and post back and let mw know how e/t went .

	..UnKnOwN..	01-Dec-06

next time u want to try and tell him how u feel...do it then...dont hold it back..hes hurting u and he doesnt kno it cus to him u dont seem to be bothered with how hes actin or he probably doesnt even realise...some ppl just take on pain in different ways...if u cant tell him in person...write a letter to him...i know in this day u might say that letters are out dated but he'll kno ur being serious about it if u write it down....and that way u can express urself more if u cant do it in person...cus if u let him continue...u'll get hurt really badly...and so will he...it seems like the reason hes angry is that its hurting him abt his mother and he doesnt know how to talk to u...so instead of telling u he gets angry...hope things get better for u